A simple framework for changing any negative behavior — I’ve been hooked on every vice you can imagine: booze, cocaine, junk food, porn, sex, cigarettes. You name it, and I’ve indulged in it to excess. I’ve also — at least temporarily — quit all those vices. …

Men have to dig deep to uncover the sources of our hidden misogyny — I spent most of my twenties in New York chasing women. With my shy, sensitive demeanor, they thought I was safe: a “nice guy.” “Boyfriend material.” But I see now that I was less interested in a relationship than the validation of a woman’s desire. Once I had it, I…

My monastic lifestyle and holier-than-thou righteousness covered up a long-held secret — It has been my experience that before we know who we are, we learn who we’re not. I spent my twenties learning I wasn’t a coke-snorting frat boy, or an Upper East Side yuppie in a pinstripe suit. …